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somewhere in the south - Friday, April 6, 2012 @ 9:41 AM
I feel for you. My husband's crazy money hungry ex just had a hissy fit when we posted pictures of his new "smile" on facebook. He had six discolored crooked teeth on the top front and all of them needed crowns since it would be stupid to recrown all of them with crooked teeth they were fixed and now he has a beautiful smile. She just bitched she spent 1000 dollars on clothes for the two girls and how dare we spend 2000 on his teeth when we lowered child support successfully a few months ago. (we spent 3,500 + 1000 insurance) and that came from our flex spending account and income tax refund. My husband has waited 40 years for a decent smile- he has never smiled for pictures- she also said the kids were jealous- are you f'n serious? They don't even have their 12 yr old molars in and are "upset" because we are not willing to put braces on an 11 year old with one tooth slightly out of place- give me a break. She is raising them to be just like her.....we should all sacrifice so she can live this lifestyle...she was complaining when we went to lower child support that my husband should get another job so they can have the "lifestyle" that they are accustomed to....yeah right...we lowered child support and are now finally after 8 years taking our "honeymoon" to Europe. Meanwhile she has had 2 more kids, two more ex-husbands, and no chance in hell anyone will really want to "be" with her besides to "hit" that. Finally our days have come after many years of putting up with her bullshit.

HappilyEverAfter - Friday, March 16, 2012 @ 12:03 PM
Wow. Does that ring true for myself and my husband. He went through not one but TWO marriages with two different but equally insane women. Here's a little back story for you: this man that I am now married to was my first real love after high school. We spent three years together, but unfortunately (and I hate to say it, but age plays a huge factor!) we both made mistakes, hurt one another making them and finally decided it was for the best that we split. Unbeknownst to me at the time, the woman who would become his first wife was the ultimate reason for our split, or at least the catalyst behind the final break. I confronted her and was not only sweet-talked, charmed and given every reason in the book to let him go, but I was also told that she would give him the peace he needed. Confused and hurt, but acquiescing that because of my personal failures and flaws that she might be correct, I let him go to find the peace I knew he deserved and needed. I should have known in the weeks and months following that this was a mistake. For as much as I was hurt by our parting, he was my best friend, my confidant and love. I wanted him to have peace and be happy. When I married within the six months following our split and was pregnant with my daughter, word of my happy pregnancy got to her through the grapevine and she began an awful campaign to convince me to abort the child. Primarily because she had developed a case of Trich and convinced my ex - and many other people we had in common - that it would harm the baby. I knew enough to know that this was a bunch of B.S. but consulted with my midwife nonetheless. She was beyond furious that anyone would say and recommend such a destructive thing! I could understand her jealousy if it had been my ex's child that I was carrying, but this? This was incomprehensible. The dawning realization of what this sociopathic individual was capeable of was just beginning to hit me. I was clearly no threat to her, but she felt a need to continue trying to destroy any happiness I might find. I started to worry about my ex - I still loved him and missed my best friend. But, I was married and felt it best to get on with my life and not interfere with his getting along with his. 20+ years later, he and I reunited. The man who showed up on my doorstep was not the man I had known 20 years prior. He was beaten down and defeated. Hurt in ways that I could not even begin to imagine. We spent the next several months talking about the intervening 20 years and what had happened to him. This woman who had claimed to have wanted to give him "peace" gave him nothing but hell. She isolated him from his family and friends, dictated who he could see and where he could go and abused him emotionally and psychologically. When he finally filed for divorce, she physically assaulted him - hitting him hard enough to permanently damage his hearing and cause neurologic problems. He didn't press charges out of concern for what it would do to her family. She took him for everything they had together as well as what he had seperately. He came away from the marriage with only the clothes on his back and a cookbook. And outstanding debts to her as ordered by the court who ruled in her favor and gave her everything she wanted and more. Shortly thereafter, he jumped into a relationship with the next woman he would marry and underwent the same cycle of abuse. Slapped, kicked, emotionally blackmailed and controlled he spent an additional 3 years married to her hoping that marriage would solve the problems as she had promised that she would change if they got married. Guess what? It didn't. It got progressively worse. Once again he filed for divorce after sending her home with a bus ticket to her family in another state and began to spiral downward into the blackest, deepest kind of hell a person can go through. Now, maybe some people would say that he deserved what he got since he chose it for himself. I disagree. He is a wonderful man possessed of a beautiful soul. He alwas was. When we caught up again, I had been divorced for 15 years and was a single parent to a beautiful daughter. And he was a broken mess. Should I have laughed in his face? Slammed the door shut and told him to live with his misery? Again, some may say yes. But I never lost sight of the fact that I had loved him and had (hoped) I had turned him over into loving hands that would cherish him. Instead he fell into abusive hands that sought to break him and once broken, break him some more until she had him firmly under her boot heel. And he felt like the most worthless person that ever lived. Two years after having made contact again, we finally married and I couldn't be happier. I have my best friend, my partner in crime, and my first real love back. We're fighting those demons that continue to plague him together and I never belittle him. I offer encouragement, freedom to grown and heal. And unconditional love. There are good days and there are bad days but we face them together - a united front. There isn't a dragon that I won't slay for him; but little by little, he's learning to slay them for himself. We've even begun a therapeutic horsemanship program geared specifically for men who have been victims of domestic violence, trying to help them get their lives and self-esteem back. We both understand. We've been there. I hope that our story provides inspiration and hope for some of the men out there dealing with the very same issues. Women: we're not all bad. And we're not all manipulative and controlling. Don't give up and don't lose sight of the light, guys. It's there and it's waiting. Every single man here who has experience the same sort of violence in their lives can overcome and be strong! If I could believe in this wonderful man in my life, that means that I can believe in all of you, too. Just don't give up. Know that someone (or many someones) love you - unconditionally. The first step: admitting and speaking out freely is the first step on the road to the journey back to yourself and to peace in your heart and soul. There is no shame in revealing your struggles. Stay sane and undaunted. There is a whole world out there of loving women who won't take advantage of you. Believe in yourself. I do. Shanti,

C - Friday, February 24, 2012 @ 12:39 PM
I totally agree with you. As the "new slut with yard apes" as my boyfriends ex wife so kindly referrs to me as, She has gone as far and mailing out of 50+, 28 page mindless ramblings to every person, family member, and business associate my boyfriend had and have ever known. After 2 years they are still surfacing. She ruined his business, wont sign documents and now we have to relocate for work, all for what??? She also cut ties with their only son because he refuses to listen to her bashing his dad. (good boy) At her age being broke is gonna leave her homeless eating cat food! . When I divorced, it cost us under $500, because we did it ourselves. and we kept the "goal" in mind, our goal = I dont want to be with you anymore. LOL How do these women walk freely unmedicated in public. It is unreal what lenghts they will go to to look totally stupid. I am glad that Im not the only sane female out there. It has however prompted me to go back to school to enter into the legal field, so I guess I can thank her for that. Not every woman is vengefull and hurtfull. Take the high road baby!

The Smirking Cat - Wednesday, February 8, 2012 @ 7:59 AM
My boyfriend/fiance turned to me one day and said, "I believe you are the last sane woman on Earth." Being immersed in the insanity of women like crazy ex-wives makes it seem like all women act this way. Sadly, I've observed far too many who do. It seems to be the norm instead of the exception. However, when I got divorced I simply moved on with life. Why everyone can't do that is beyond me, except that our family court system is very much designed to permit and encourage them to behave this way with no repercussions.