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I know most say their ex is crazy but...

Posted by Corban on November 5th, 2011 @ 2:42pm in Salt Lake City

I found out yesterday 11/3/2011, that my ex sent me, some friends and a girl I dated while going through my divorce an email. The email said nothing except a signature quote she puts on every email; Hell is other people. - Jean-Paul Sartre. I haven't seen her in a little more than a year, haven't spoken to her in almost two yet she does this. I recently updated my FB because I'm in a new relationship, a good one with a great girl. All of a sudden, someone tries to access my bank account, my hotmail, my facebook, etc, and then I get this email. I could write a book about my ex and this stuff. She constantly hung divorce over my head for years as a power/intimidation thing so after she chose to abandon me, I filed for divorce. This was in 2008, the knot was legally untied 2.5 years later. The most amazing thing about her and I, neither of us had anything to fight for with a divorce even though she chose to. No kids, no property, nothing except a mountain of debt she wracked up behind my back before she left. She took out credit cards in my name and she caused my home to fall into foreclosure. I live in Utah, what you have prior to marriage is your's and a spouse has no claim to it, mine included a house. For almost a year before she left, she took my money as though she was paying my mortgage, hid it from me (intercepting phone calls, mail, etc) and I discovered my home was almost a year behind payments after she left and there wasn't anything I could do beyond that point. My lawyer was a divorce lawyer, her's was a family friend who knows nothing of divorce and kept telling her she could take everything I had while mine was saying she doesn't even qualify for alimony. Mine stated that the only thing we shared was debt and she was in for a rude awakening when it went to court. She did some crazy stuff during our divorce. She was stalking me I know that. The one that scared me the most was posting pictures of her shooting an AR15 in an area next to my home. My home was in a more rural area but she was living more than an hour away in another city and county. She's never shot a gun, never owned a gun and goes and posts pictures on FB right after she was served papers. It was one of those fully decked out probably barely legal assault rifles and she decides to target shoot watermelons next to where I live, not even on a range. Some of the pictures really made me scared because she wasn't just shooting it, she was posing with it like she was stalking and hunting something. If I did that sort of thing, I'd be on the news and in jail in the same day. My lawyer when shown these pictures did get a restraining order against her. My lawyer ended up dropping me as a client because the case was so frustrating and her attorney was insane as well. Her attorney was harassing me at my work and was part of me losing my job at the time. My attorney tried to come to him saying "we are both professionals working for our clients to find a mutual solution, why are you acting like this is Law & Order?" My attorney told her's multiple times he needed to drop himself as her attorney for unprofessional behavior but he took this as a challenge saying he was going to personally sue everyone outside of the divorce. His harassment of me at my work started a process that eventually cost me my job. My lawyer eventually had to quit saying this is too much and too long for a divorce, that he is against getting into pissing contests with other attorneys for things they know are fallacious. One thing I forgot to mention is that she is Mormon and comes from a very conservative Mormon family, I'm not. I let her do her thing but she and her family constantly tried to get me converted so we could be "sealed" in a Mormon temple. Her family was instrumental in pressing her to leave me because I wouldn't do this. I live in Utah and even though I'm not a Mormon, I have friends and family who are. They get a bad rap as a whole but they are just like any other religion out there but some just use it as a crutch and a weapon. As Mormon families go, these are the crazy ones of the Ward. They sit in the back on Sunday but on testimony Sunday they sit in the front so they can get up in front of everyone and tell the story of their life including the crap that families keep in within themselves while the rest of the church roll their eyes. Her attorney was also Mormon who works for Mormons and thinks he's untouchable because of the work he does. In the middle of a two and a half year divorce, she finally agrees to sign and drop everything. It surprised me but I jumped on it real fast. Found out that the woman who constantly accused me of infidelity gets married to a Mormon guy less than one month after our divorce. It was a bit of a shocker but I was hoping that it was all over by now; you know; the pay it forward thing. But she still finds time to harass me and be a new little happy Mormon homemaker at the same time. The thing that really bothers me the most about this email, she's also harassing a girl I dated while going through my divorce. I started to date her after I filed for divorce, totally legal and normal for someone to do. She harassed this girl to no end and she had to drop our relationship and move out of state because of this. This girl is now married and has kids but she still finds the time to harass people. Now, I'm gonna get drunk.

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